I’ve been having difficulty recently with some people in my life – people in positions of power. This is in a context of a volunteer organization, but it holds just as true in business.
The two most motivating words are: “Thank You.”
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Your job is, well, work. The reason they pay you to do it is because you wouldn’t do it for free.
But that’s not a very inspiring reason, is it?
Right now, a lot of people are feeling trapped in their job and career because they’re worried about being able to find their next job. They’ve been hunkering down, hoping to hang on until the economy improves.
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Part of the human journey is a constant struggle between wanting to fit in, and wanting to be valued because of our unique value.
I guess that’s one of the things that makes life interesting.
But what makes you unique? It can come from several places:
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I’m as ambitious as most people, I suppose. I’m always looking for new experiences, new things to do, more ways to win.
But some days it’s good to recognize the blessings you have.
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We’re constantly going through cycles in our jobs, in our careers, and in our lives. And if you’re out hunting for a job, it’s tough to keep your energy up to do the draining work every day.
Be sure to give yourself a break. Just as your body needs its rest every night, your mental stamina will also go through normal ups and downs.
But there’s also some tricks and techniques to regenerating your energy when you need to. Try some of these out to see what works for you.
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Giving to get
Here’s a core principle of human behavior, so simple: When people receive something they value, they’re more inclined to give back in return. Pretty obvious, right? But it’s absolutely true, and is one of the reasons why those charities send you small gifts in the mail. They’re hoping you’ll find some value in them, and give back in return. But suppose you’re the one trying to sell something: You have a great idea, you want a job, or you want to have influence over other people. You can use the above principle in several ways: People need to know what you have to offer. A great way to do this is to show it in action, not just tell people about it. Do you know how to do something interesting or valuable? Show them. Do you have a product you’re trying to sell? Show it doing something useful and interesting. Trying to sell an idea? Show a mock-up, an analogy, or how the idea has already worked in other situations. People need a reason to prefer you over the competition. You’ll be thought of as more valuable if you’ve already demonstrated an inclination to give value. Are you after a particular job? Look for ways to help the employer solve real problems, whether by volunteering or even what value you give during the interview. Let’s say you’re trying to have influence over a decision. If you have demonstrated an ability to understand the bigger picture – that of the decision-maker – you’ll have more credibility. If people in power have seen you exercise skill and expertise, they’ll be more likely to listen to what you have to say. Here’s the bottom line: Don’t be stingy with your skill, knowledge, time, and resources. When people see you giving freely, they’ll be inclined to help you in return. But remember: What you give has to have value in the recipient’s eyes. Otherwise, it’s just a useless trinket. |
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I’ve been fortunate to have a few wonderful bosses over the course of my career. Not just decent, not just good, but truly exceptional people. I’ve also been fortunate that the number of truly terrible managers has been very low.
The truly exceptional ones have treated me with honesty and respect, supported me in tough times, cared about me as a unique individual, and given me challenging and valuable work.
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Life’s stressful. So much work to do, so much to worry about. If you have a job, you’re stressed about losing it. If you don’t have a job, things seem so hopeless.
The fabric of society is falling apart. Politics bring important decisions to a standstill. Global climate change. Terrorism.
OK, folks, enough. Cut yourself some slack.
I’ve been involved with a fair number of volunteer organizations during my lifetime, and I’ve always been amazed at how much people are willing to give. On the face of it, this isn’t quite rational – why would you do something that costs you a lot of time, money and work, when you aren’t getting anything specific in return?
Ah, but you do get something.
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Peter Bregman, in the Harvard Business Review, wrote an interesting article this week about what motivates people to help. If you haven’t seen it yet, follow that link and have a look. Peter raises an interesting question about why people are motivated to give to others, to help.
In general, people like to be helpful. I suppose part of it is an expectation of getting something in return, but that’s not the core.
The fact is, you get a rush just from knowing you’ve done good. It actually physically feels good to you, and in many cases that may be enough reward in itself.
Of course, we get rather cynical about all this. Many charitable organizations prey on our need to be loved and to feel like we’re making a difference. After a while we get the sense that maybe we’re not actually making the difference that we’d hoped, and that some of the unscrupulous types might be taking advantage of us.
That’s why Peter’s example is so powerful. It’s about making a difference to someone here and now, in a way that makes a difference that you can actually see.
Here’s what we learn about giving:
As I said before, the act of giving has great value. Remember that in your own life, and those of people who you work with.
How do you convince people to like you and give you a break?
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