Posts Tagged ‘balance’

The balance of optimism

Monday, April 23rd, 2012
I tend to think of myself as an optimistic guy.  Despite some internal struggles and down moments, I find that it’s more fun going through life looking for opportunity more than focusing on pain.But this can get me into trouble sometimes.

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Adjusting your lifestyle

Monday, April 9th, 2012

When I gave a presentation a few weeks ago, I talked about how people relate to their income level.  I observed that people worry about money a great deal when their income is less than sufficient to maintain their lifestyle, but they focus on other things once they can generally afford how much they spend.  But “lifestyle” is a very individual term, something that each person and family develops as a norm.

This is from a manager’s point of view, and can be used to explain why people stay in jobs even though they might be paid more elsewhere.  When an employee has “sufficient” income, he’ll tend to focus more on other factors.  Relationship with co-workers now have more weight, as does the motivating factor of working on something that’s actually important.

I also observed that many employees in the current economy have been forced to slide back into situations where they’re unmotivated and unhappy, just to maintain a satisfactory income.  Or perhaps less than acceptable income.

How would an employee use this information?  In a growing economy, you’ll generally have the ability to move your lifestyle up during your lifetime.  When you do that, you’ll feel relatively happy, even rich.  You’re able to get a nicer car than you had before, and move into a nicer home.

But this is a temporary effect.  As soon as your expectations get adjusted to the new comforts, you’re not really any more satisfied than you used to be.

And realize that adjusting your lifestyle back down can be QUITE painful.  I’ve seen both good and bad examples.  I’ve seen divorces ruin peoples’ lives for economic reasons, because they’re now trying to maintain two households with no additional income.  Even worse is when people destroy their finances by attempting to maintain their lifestyle through debt.

But I’ve seen a few good examples, too.  I talked with a person last year who essentially “rebooted” her lifestyle after a job change, starting over again with fewer luxuries, lower obligations, and less debt.  That’s pretty courageous, but it reinvigorated her spirit.  She’s now focused on spending her life doing good for people rather than amassing a big pile of possessions.

I’ve also seen people who had enough self-control to take any pay raises and put them almost entirely into savings and investments.  They’re delaying the upward adjustment in lifestyle in the short term, to give themselves more cushion against risk.

When I set out in my own business three years ago, this was a serious challenge for my family.  It takes a long time to grow a successful business, so we had to decide which expenses we could reduce.  And it’s generally been a healthy route for us, but now always easy.

But if you’re going to adjust your lifestyle – up or down – do it with some forethought and intention.  You’ll be happier.

 

Carl Dierschow is a Certified Small Fish Business Coach and author of the career management guide, Mondays Stink! 23 Secrets to Rediscover Delight and Fulfillment in Your Work. He is a career coach for those going through interesting transitions, and works with small business owners who need to create breakthroughs in achieving their business goals. Find out more at www.Dierschow.com and www.SmallFish.us.

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Time for a reboot?

Monday, December 12th, 2011
It’s the end of the year.  I’m not a big fan of new year’s resolutions, really – I don’t see much reason to make up arbitrary goals with the realization that they won’t even last a month.But…

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Don’t beat yourself up

Saturday, October 22nd, 2011

Man, I sure blew that.  I had that discussion with my boss, and it sure feels like I gave her a bad impression.  Now she’ll think I’m an idiot.

OK, time to calm down a bit.

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Ten ways to rebuild your energy

Saturday, October 15th, 2011

I don’t know about you, but there’s some days I can hardly get myself out of bed.  The prospect of yet another day of pointless work….

Or I get out of meetings late in the afternoon and it hits me how behind I am.  REALLY behind.

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Laboring for a purpose

Monday, September 5th, 2011

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Laboring for a purpose

It’s Labor Day here in the US, a holiday when we remember those who have fought to create a work environment where people can earn a fair living for doing fair work.  Ironic, I suppose, that we celebrate work by … taking the day off.

It’s bittersweet for those millions of people who are unemployed or underemployed, who are unconvinced of that this is the Great Land Of Opportunity that we once thought.

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What fear is in your way?

Monday, August 22nd, 2011

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What fear is in your way?

You’ve been wanting to advance your career, but it seems that you’re sabotaging yourself at every turn.  You were going to have that important discussion with your boss, and then wimped out.  “Too busy,” you told yourself, or “not a convenient time.”

We all struggle with this.

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The balance of giving and taking

Monday, July 25th, 2011

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The balance of giving and taking

I have several blogs, as you may have discovered.  On a regular basis, I get emails from other blog sites which say something like:

I’ve been following your blog for some time, and like what you have to say.  You might want to know that I’ve just published a new article on ________.  If you find it interesting, I’d appreciate if you could mention it on your blog.

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Now, I really like helping out other people, so on occasion I’ve obliged.  But after having received dozens of nearly identical requests, I’ve stopped participating.  (more…)

Your Energy Reserves

Monday, May 30th, 2011

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Your energy reserves

I’ve been going through some significant changes in my personal life recently, which have tapped a significant amount of my personal energy.  Severing relationships and saying goodbye to people you love is never easy.

What’s fascinating to me is how this has affected the energy I have for my business.  I’m not an extrovert, so getting out there to build my business is tough.  It’s much easier for me to sit here in my office, and, well, write newsletter articles.  (more…)

“This job sucks!”

Wednesday, May 25th, 2011

C’mon, you’ve said it.  Or at least you’ve thought it.

You’ve lost patience with the drudgery, the people you work with, that annoying problem that just won’t go away.  And you found out the dog’s sick.

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