{"id":143,"date":"2009-03-13T13:44:30","date_gmt":"2009-03-13T05:44:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.hp.com\/hpcoach\/2009\/03\/15\/congruency\/"},"modified":"2009-05-25T17:09:26","modified_gmt":"2009-05-26T00:09:26","slug":"congruency","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/dierschow.com\/wordpress\/career\/congruency","title":{"rendered":"Congruency"},"content":{"rendered":"

I was taught, beginning in my teen years, that each of us has multiple masks<\/em> that we wear – different personalities that we adopt in different contexts.\u00a0 Certainly, I know that I behave differently with my family than I do at work or at church.<\/p>\n

But carried to the extreme, this can mean that we experience inner turmoil when we have to act in a way which isn’t consistent with our deep values and priorities.\u00a0 I work with clients all the time on digging down to these deeper levels, and it always results in important insights and a sense of deeper longing.\u00a0 Bringing those deep values and priorities to the fore then leads to a life which is more fulfilling, more consistent – more congruent<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Each of us only holds one set of inner values.\u00a0 We use that as the basis for making decisions and feeling satisfied with our various contexts – family,\u00a0work, spirituality, and social circles.\u00a0 The degree to which we are able to exercise our personal values in each context is the concept of congruency<\/em>.\u00a0 Clearly, to be satisfied with your life overall, you need to be able to exercise that alignment in each context.<\/p>\n

Which means that having all aspects of your life be congruent with each other<\/em> is also of great value.<\/p>\n

A primary reason why I’m still with my employer after many hears is that their core values are consistent with my own.\u00a0 The company doesn’t behave according to its values perfectly, of course, but then neither do I.\u00a0 But I can be more of who I truly am, at a deeper level, than at other companies with different cultures.<\/p>\n

I have other important parts of my life associated with family, with the coaching community, and with my church.\u00a0 The important thing is that I don’t have to be a totally different person in each context, I can be mostly the same self.<\/p>\n

So here’s the questions:<\/p>\n