{"id":1347,"date":"2012-04-23T08:55:22","date_gmt":"2012-04-23T15:55:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dierschow.com\/wordpress\/?p=1347"},"modified":"2012-04-23T08:55:22","modified_gmt":"2012-04-23T15:55:22","slug":"the-balance-of-optimism","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/dierschow.com\/wordpress\/career\/the-balance-of-optimism","title":{"rendered":"The balance of optimism"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\n\n\n
I tend to think of myself as an optimistic guy.\u00a0 Despite some internal struggles and down moments, I find that it’s more fun going through life looking for opportunity more than focusing on pain.But this can get me into trouble sometimes.<\/p>\n

As you know, I’m a small business coach.\u00a0 I have a small and exclusive clientele, which means they take a long time to find and sign up.\u00a0 It’s not uncommon for my sales cycle to be several months long.\u00a0 More important, most people I talk with don’t end up purchasing my services.<\/p>\n

The result for me, internally, is that I get quite excited when it looks like someone will sign up as a client.\u00a0 Because I’m optimistic, I like to hope for the best.<\/p>\n

That doesn’t always happen.\u00a0 Which can leave me, well, quite grumpy for awhile.<\/p>\n

I’m trying to learn how to “hold hope lightly.”\u00a0 It’s a balance point of hoping, but not investing emotionally.\u00a0 Of realizing that either outcome is possible, even good.\u00a0 My internal dialog is something like this: “I’d love for this person to become a client.\u00a0 But it that doesn’t happen, that’s OK too, because my deeper goal is to find the people who will get huge value from my services.”<\/p>\n

This helps to level out the emotional roller-coaster quite a bit.\u00a0 My wife appreciates it too.<\/p>\n

I’d like to think that the saying about “not putting all your eggs in one basket” is a bit similar to this, especially when it comes to focusing your emotions.<\/p>\n

Oh, by the way, I did sign a new client last week.\u00a0 So NOW I have a great reason to celebrate!<\/p>\n

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Carl Dierschow is a Certified Small Fish Business Coach<\/a> and author of the career management guide, Mondays Stink! 23 Secrets to Rediscover Delight and Fulfillment in Your Work<\/em>. He is a career coach for those going through interesting transitions, and works with small business owners who need to create breakthroughs in achieving their business goals. Find out more at www.Dierschow.com<\/a> and www.SmallFish.us<\/a>.<\/p>\n

If you are interested in individual career coaching, group coaching, or other resources which might help you with difficult choices, please contact Carl at carl@dierschow.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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