{"id":1246,"date":"2011-09-20T12:51:20","date_gmt":"2011-09-20T19:51:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dierschow.com\/wordpress\/?p=1246"},"modified":"2012-06-01T14:46:00","modified_gmt":"2012-06-01T21:46:00","slug":"dealing-with-the-fears","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/dierschow.com\/wordpress\/career\/dealing-with-the-fears","title":{"rendered":"Dealing with the fears"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\nMaking career decisions is scary!\u00a0 You’re dealing with life-changing decisions, impacts on your family, people who can affect your life direction in deep ways, ….<\/p>\n

Calm down for a moment.<\/p>\n

It’s OK to be stressed, that’s understandable.\u00a0 But there’s different ways of handling stress.\u00a0 Many people start by moving into a position of fear – the animal fight or flight response.<\/p>\n

Think of fears as the compilation of your life’s learning.\u00a0 When we were cavemen, we had good reason to be fearful when we heard growling in a cave.\u00a0 You could end up as that bear’s lunch, so running away was the best option.\u00a0 Over time all animals, ourselves included, have developed the ability to sense dangerous situations and respond quickly.\u00a0 That’s fear.<\/p>\n

Something strange has happened, though.\u00a0 Researchers have established that socially uncomfortable<\/em> situations create the same physical responses as when people are physically in danger.<\/p>\n

That means that your response to being embarrassed in grade school is very similar to that fear of the bear in the cave.<\/p>\n

I find this very strange, but it’s true.<\/p>\n

It also means that your imagined fears<\/em> can be much larger than the actual reality.\u00a0 Let’s say that I’m thinking of giving up a well-paying career as a doctor to take up social work.\u00a0 That’s a huge change, so a wide array of doubts will start popping up:<\/p>\n

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Carl Dierschow is a Certified Small Fish Business Coach<\/a> and author of the career management guide, Mondays Stink! 23 Secrets to Rediscover Delight and Fulfillment in Your Work<\/em>. He is a career coach for those going through interesting transitions, and works with small business owners who need to create breakthroughs in achieving their business goals. Find out more at www.Dierschow.com<\/a> and www.SmallFish.us<\/a>.<\/p>\n

If you are interested in individual career coaching, group coaching, or other resources which might help you with difficult choices, please contact Carl at carl@dierschow.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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